From the moment we’re born until the day we die, comparison seems to follow us. As kids, we’re constantly evaluated against our peers. We all draw pictures, but some kids’ drawings are "better." As we grow older, school rankings reinforce this idea. Grades and scores become a measure of who’s on top and who’s not.
It’s no wonder that comparison feels so natural. In almost any pursuit, we instinctively measure ourselves against others. When I started my journey into public speaking, I fell into the same trap. I couldn’t help but compare myself to speakers who had decades of experience, gripping life stories, or powerful narratives of redemption. I thought, I haven’t lived an extraordinary life—what do I have to say that matters?
Years later, I still hear echoes of my old doubts in the voices of people who approach me after events.
"I couldn’t do what you do," they’ll say.
And I’ll respond, "You’re right—you can’t do it the way I do it. But that’s not the point."
My style is mine. I bring a lot of energy to the stage, and while many people love that, it’s not for everyone. Some absolutely hate it. And that’s okay! Your style, your personality, and your perspective are yours. No one else can bring those to the table the way you can.
It’s natural to compare yourself to others in the same field—especially those with more experience. But here’s the thing: even the most talented rookie in the NFL struggles against veterans. That doesn’t mean the rookie doesn’t belong; it means growth takes time.
Your Story is Your Strength
What we often overlook is that every person’s journey is unique. Thousands of speakers out there are teaching courses on how to present, but no two speakers are the same. Your experiences, beliefs, and knowledge color how you process information and how you share it with others. That’s your superpower.
As you work toward your goals, remember this: your life and perspective are one of a kind. You may doubt your abilities or worry you’re not "good enough." But good enough compared to what?
Your story matters. Your voice matters. And no one else can tell it the way you can.
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